The struggle of being a mum
Today is a day I’m not proud of, I’m finding it a struggle being a mum. Feeling rubbish, I have not been well since Wednesday morning. I had plans for the school holidays, I was going to be the model parent, take the children out daily and explore. Instead, I’ve spent Wednesday and Thursday in bed and today I’m sat under my blanket watching Hawaii Five O. Yes a very lazy day. I’m not sure how single mums manage as daddy has had to help this week. Yes, it can certainly be a struggle to be a mum
Now sat here, pains in my legs and stomach, the children are playing on the computer, yes great parenting! Trying to get myself motivated to move, I’m still wearing my pyjamas. The energy to get dressed and tackle the weeds in the garden is just not there. Maybe I will find the energy tomorrow.
For the first time in months, maybe years, daddy has had to do the food shop. I’m sat now looking at what needs to be done, but I hurt too much to move. Trying to muster up the energy to walk to the toaster, I need food.
As a mum, we take on so much responsibility and feel guilty when we can’t provide. Life goes on despite mum not being available for a few days. I’ve still done the washing and helped the children late at night, but reading and homework have not been completed.
The children wanted to go for a bike ride, maybe another week, I haven’t driven the car since Tuesday morning, let alone ride a bike.
Sitting here now, we have the weekend left for reading and homework. As a mum, I think there are times when we need to give ourselves a break. I managed to have a bath yesterday morning, bubbles and warmth, very good for achy tired limbs.
Through fear of passing anything to the children, I haven’t hugged them properly since Tuesday. They both need to go to school on Monday, I have to go to work. Life does throw its challenges at us, right now I’m grateful to be getting better.
In life, we all need to try and stay positive, which is hard if like me you often dwell on the negative. There are so many mum’s who are either alone or have more serious illnesses, not just a random sick bug.
My plan for the next few days is to try and make the most of the weekend with the children. Maybe spend some time in the garden. Spending some time tidying would be good too as looking at my house right now, it is obvious to me that I’ve not been well.
So to the single mums out there, how do you manage when you are not well? How do you get the children to school after a night of having your head resting on the toilet seat? I honestly don’t think I could have got them there, not without help. The struggle of being a mum is certainly greater for some mums than others.
It’s June tomorrow, halfway through the year and the Annual Bloggers Bash is about two weeks away. Not long now, I’m excited to finally be meeting some of you properly. To meet the people behind your blogs. I’m often found hiding in the corner, too shy to talk. I’m hoping that as we have already shared so much that I will be able to relax and enjoy it.
It has been years since I’ve travelled to London Victoria. I’ve already sat and tried to plan my day. However, it is impossible to plan the journey home properly due to the number of platforms at the station. I will be the loon stopping the station staff for directions to the right platform. On a positive note though if I end up going in the wrong direction it could be an adventure and a good blog post. Though it could work out expensive.
My daughter has just come in from the garden with a moth on her leg. I’ve not got the energy to ensure she takes it back outside safely and she is now heading upstairs. She is strong-willed and often will not do as she is told., part of the ongoing struggle of being a mum.
Anyway, on with the day, the television is now off and daddy is now on the computer. What is it with boys/men and computer games? I’m now going to get up and make a mug of tea. Then maybe do something productive if my body will let me.
For more see Maintaining balance in life
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tidalscribe
I don’t know how Mums who are really on their own, no partner, no family near by, cope. I just caught a glimpse on the news of a totally disabled mother with young boy triplets; her poor husband had to do everything. Hope you feel better soon; it doesn’t hurt children to see mums get ill the same as they do… and to know their help is valued.
Just muddling through life
Thanks, yes single mums are amazing! So much work! I guess it’s a case of doing what you need to do.
fancypaperblog
Feel better soon! My husband farms so he is away long periods every day-wknds too. When I get sick my mam will come over for an eve but I have to try make it work after that because they mind so much for me already. Not easy sometimes!
Just muddling through life
Thanks, yes it’s hard work! Good that your mum will help you. A support network does make a difference. Can still be hard though.
fancypaperblog
For sure!
josypheen
It sounds like you are being a superhero aaaand way to hard on yourself!
I hope you have a good weekend, feel better and that you’re back to feeling amazing by the time the blog bash comes around!!
Just muddling through life
Thankyou Josy, I’m hoping that the pain’s pass soon. Yes I definately need to be fit for the bash. Hope you have a good weekend too.
EsmeSalon (@EsmeSalon)
Hope you feel better soon Marian, Yes moms do get sick and should not beat themselves over it. You’re a good Mom
Just muddling through life
Thanks Esme, I’m feeling better now and it’s back to school and work tomorrow, all too soon.
willowdot21
It no fun being a mum when you are not well… in fact sometimes it’s not being a mum when you are well ! 💜
Just muddling through life
Yes Willow very true! X
willowdot21
Lol it gets better 💜
Just muddling through life
Ha ha, all uphill from here.. being a mum, best job and hardest job in the world. X
willowdot21
Yes indeed and no training at all 💜
Just muddling through life
Yes, all learnt as you go.. trying to do your best, x
willowdot21
We all mess up too lol
Just muddling through life
Its hard as well when you get so much conflicting advice. Best you can do is follow your heart and do what’s right for your own family.
willowdot21
Yes indeed, I got so much when I had the children small that now I try never to give any unless directly asked 💜
Just muddling through life
Yes many people are too quick to give advice, that actually you don’t need to hear. They think they are right, but they aren’t always..
Tessa
Thanks for this blogg post
Just muddling through life
Thank you Tessa, sorry for my slow reply!