• balance
    Family,  Parenting

    Maintaining balance in life

    Maintaining balance in life is never easy. Awkward children, tired husband, house insurance due for renewal, school photos to be ordered, my head is swimming with information. Still writing my novel, now at 37000 words. So much I need to expand on, but getting my thoughts straight to write it is hard. I know I need to get my first draft written.

    I’ve started writing my time travel timeline on wallpaper. I’m realising there is so much to writing an exciting, interesting novel. I’ve been advised that because I’m writing Science Fiction, I need to read more Science Fiction.

    How do writers fit in all the reading and research alongside family life? I’ve purchased a notebook to write down ideas whilst I’m out and about. I’ve been advised as well to try and make my novel humorous, but I am not Douglas Adams. Would be nice to believe though that I could be as funny.

    So what else is happening? Last week I was involved in a car accident. Was not to bad but scary enough. The children were upset but are now pleased with their new car seats and the hire car while it is being repaired. I have gone from a 2010 Citroen C3 Picasso to a new black BMW. The children have already managed to set of its alarm. My son touched it and it started screaming at him. I’ve never driven a car with an alarm before.

    Despite the car being shiny and new though, I want my old diesel back. If I was to buy a new car tomorrow it would not be a BMW. I was stationary at the time of the accident. I hid in the hedge as she passed and scraped my car. Due to having a dashcam the insurance company has the evidence that I was not at fault. It might have just paid for itself. I would honestly recommend buying one. The footage shows that I’m doing 0mph as she hits me. The kids make it more dramatic by crying, we were all in shock but none of us were hurt.

    So now trying to focus on what I need to do. I’m tired and just want to sleep. Maybe after a lay in tomorrow, I will feel more recharged. Maybe the children will leave me long enough to sleep in. Tomorrow as well as everything else I need to do, I need to help the kids with their homework.

    I still need to make a decision on the house insurance, it really is not as simple as compare the market or confused.com or even money supermarket. Not as simple as just pick the cheapest. All policies cover different things. Different excesses, different levels of cover. My head hurts trying to decide. I have pages of notes and have spent a lot of time on the phone. I am a great over thinker!

    Does anyone else worry about the amount of time you spend with a mobile phone to your ear? I fear that I’m frying my brain. If I put the phone on speaker I find that the person I’m talking to can not always hear me very well. I think I need to attach some headphones to my mobile phone.

    Another week left of school and work and then we have another holiday. I’m looking forward to time at home with the kids however they are hard work. The balance of time with the children and their stress and time away from work stress.  I’m planning now for the week coming, a trip to the town, we have library books to return.

    Yes, the pile of library books that we took out a few weeks back have still to go back. The wonders of being able to renew them online. My son chose most of them and he has maybe read three out of about twelve books. I borrowed a Dean Koontz novel and have not read it, life keeps getting in the way and I need to read Science Fiction.

    So, what next? I need to be more focused, balancing work and life is never going to be easy. The children are demanding and I need to spend quality time with them too as well as Daddy.

    How can a healthy balance be achieved? Maybe I need to start doing Tai Chi every morning. However, that would just add to an already hectic schedule.

    For a working, writing mum with young children, managing a busy household. The demands of balancing everything feels heavy sometimes. The importance of just being you and making time for you! It is crucial to find the necessary time to recharge and refuel.

    So, how do you manage to balance everything? Does life feel hectic and often stressful for you as well? I appreciate a lay-in and time alone under the duvet. May sound selfish but I really need it. If I could smuggle coffee and chocolate inside as well I would. This morning, being my day off, I wanted to return to bed after the school run. However, I had to much to do and had to accept delivery of the BMW and say goodbye to my car for a few days.

    The joys of life and it’s stresses and challenges. The challenge of maintaining a healthy balance.

    for more see, Twelve ideas for mum to help relieve stress

  • money
    Fiction writing

    Money, a row, a walk and a tight situation.

    Where was I? My head was thudding. Laying there I tried to remember what had happened. The sound of a radio and an engine made me realise that I was in a car boot. My memory of the night’s events was a blur. After a row with the waste of space boyfriend Jamie, I had stormed out with the grand intention of walking home. He had been shouting after me and I had ignored his screams, the case of Candy knows best. Well, tonight she didn’t. Tonight, was stupid! What was I thinking? My mouth felt dry and I felt clammy. Shivering I longed for my comfortable blanket on my bed at home. Sighing heavily and now feeling the tears running down my face I knew this was not going to end well. Jamie wasn’t all bad, he had refused to pitch in once again for pizza. He has a job so he has the money to pay his share. Doesn’t have to forever sponge of Candy the doormat. So, what now? being driven to god knows where and I haven’t got a clue why.

    *            *             *            *

    Reaching for another beer, Jamie heard his phone beep. Tutting he grabbed it, hoping she had regretted walking off. Hey, who really could resist Jamie with his magic hands? Reading the message, he felt chills. ‘Come to the lake or the girl gets it’.

    A few nights earlier he had been sat in ‘The Royal Oak’ when mad Freddie had come in demanding his money. He knew that borrowing from a Lone Shark was a mug’s game but he had needed it urgently. Not having his money had not gone down well. He realised that he should have taken his threats seriously. Freddie had a reputation for the insane and now he had Candy.  They had been together just under a year now. Candy knew that he was not perfect but she was not aware of his debts. Had she known she might have been more understanding over the pizza tonight. If she hadn’t stormed out then she would not be in this mess now. They would both be safely sat on his settee.

    Freddie wanted his money and he knew that he wouldn’t stop hounding him until he paid him back with interest. Having tried all the banks, there was no one who would help.

    *             *           *            *

    Lying in the darkness, I could not stop shaking. I could no longer feel my legs and my heart was racing. Why had I been captured? Listening to the sounds outside I could hear voices and then footsteps.
    “What you done Freddie? Why the girl?”
    “You know soft lad will do anything for her. He needs to produce my money or else”
    “And what if he goes to the cops? What then?

    “Oh calm down, Jez, he won’t, he’ll have my money somewhere or he’ll get it”.
    “I do hope you’re right, kidnap is not our thing, money is.”
    “Jez, this is ten grand we are down right now, he needs to cough up. If the only way to make him is to take his girl, then that’s what we have to do.”
    “Well I do hope you’re right, the last thing we need here is coppers”.
    “I’m right, you’ll see.”

    Listening and taking in every word, at least I knew now why he hadn’t helped pay for the pizza. If only he had told me, rather then going to this lunatic. Wondering how much debt he was in, I realised that actually he really didn’t have that money. If he had he would have paid his share tonight.  Reaching into my pocket for my phone, I found it missing. How long had I been out for? It was now I started praying. I have always believed in God, but I don’t go to church and I rarely talk to him. Now I needed a miracle. Hoping that he would forgive me for ignoring him for so long, I started to recite, “please God, please help me, please God, please help me.”

    Becoming breathless I now became aware of the lack of air. Could car boots become airtight? It seemed this one was, meaning I needed to be let out soon. “Please God, please let me out, please God, please let me out”. Listening once more for voices, all I could hear was silence. Where would this nightmare end?

    *         *         *            *

    Putting down his phone, Jamie realised he had exhausted all avenues. His only option now was the police or Candy’s parents. He had already spoken to his and received a rude response. What could he say to Candy’s dad, he knew he had no choice. Dialling their number a cheerful voice answered the phone,
    “Hello.”
    “Hi Wendy, could I please speak with Paul?”
    “Of course dear,” she put the handset down and he could hear her calling him.
    “Hi Jamie, what’s happened?”
    “Very sorry Sir, but errr, hmmm, I need to borrow ten grand, err Candy has been kidnapped and I need to pay the loan shark to get her back.”

    Paul Hickley was often calm in a crisis and this was no exception. Jamie was not really sure what his job was but he knew it was something important.
    “Where are they holding her?”
    “The lake sir.”
    “Right, I will come and get you and we’ll go together”

    Putting down the phone, Jamie hoped that he had done the right thing. Ten minutes later he saw Paul outside. Racing out, slamming the door behind him, Jamie asked,
    “Do you have the money?”
    “Yes, son.”
    Jamie knew not to ask again. It felt like hours later when they pulled up at the lake.

    *         *          *             *

    It was now that I heard voices, an exchange of words. Hearing my dad,  I was shocked what was Jamie playing at? I now heard footsteps then air flooded my hiding place, Jamie dragged me out and told me to get in my dad’s car. It was now that all hell broke loose, first the men realised my dad had given them a bag of paper and then sirens were heard and the police appeared.

    This is a night none of us will forget, my dad was the hero and my mum had called the police. As for Jamie my dad has gone through his finances and worked out a payment plan. The loan sharks are safe with the police. Finding myself struggling to breathe in an airtight boot is something I will be retelling for the rest of my life. As for Jamie, no more credit and sensible spending from that day onwards.

    Written for Blog battle – Airtight

    For more see, A mum working the baby night shift

  • books
    Amazon,  writing

    10 Fantastic books to help writers

    As a new writer, I have realised that I need to read more.  Books, reading and writing all tie together.  How do you fit writing and reading around family life? The answer, with difficulty.   I am currently writing a time travel novel and need to read more time travel books.  A walk to the library is in my near future. I started a crime novel back in 2018, but for now, that is saved in the cloud.  One day I  intend to go back to it and finish it.  As a writer, you often hear the phrase, “Show don’t tell”.  What does this really mean? Does it mean long drawn out descriptions or just a sentence, like,   ‘she pulled her hood and coat around her’ rather than ‘she thought it was cold’?

    While writing I have now been thinking more about my character descriptions and trying to draw the reader into my book.  It was my birthday on Tuesday so handy Amazon vouchers have now been invested in my desire to write my book.  So here are some recommendations for helpful books for writers.

    Please note, this post does contain affiliate links, so anything purchased through it will at no extra cost to you earn me some commission which will help to pay for my blog.

    1. Understanding show don’t tell and really getting it – Janice Hardy
    2. The Elements of Style – William Shrunk Jr and EB White
    3. On writing, a memoir of the craft – Stephen King
    4. The Emotion Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to Character Expression
    5. The Emotional wound Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to Psychololgical Trauma
    6. The Positive Trait Thesaurus: A Writers Guide to Character Attributes
    7. The Negative Trait Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to Character Flaws
    8. The Rural Setting Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to Personal and Natural Places
    9. The Urban Setting Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to City Spaces
    10. Emotion Amplifiers – Ebook

    I then bought myself a new notebook and some pens.  Hoping to spark my creativity and writing. So far I have written out my timeline in pink and green.  My aim for this weekend is to write it out again on a long roll of wallpaper. I’m trying to work between the time of the dinosaurs until the year 5000 at present.  It is becoming confusing.

    There is a huge selection of notebooks and pens at Amazon.  So these are just some, but pretty pens and a pretty notebook are always helpful for writers.

    A pretty notebook – Amazon.com link

    Pretty notebook with a pocket – Amazon.co.uk

    Papermate ink joy ball point pens – Amazon.com

    Papermate Ink Joy ball point pens – Amazon.co.uk

    I am learning that writing a book is much more work than I originally thought.  However, I am learning along the way and it is a good experience despite all the work.

    Here is a helpful post from Lorna at Gin and Lemonade, which also includes an offer on Coffee – 12 Awesome gifts for writers 

    I am now going to reboil the kettle for more tea, then have another look at time travel and my novel.

    Are there any books that you would recommend? Writing is a long road but once my first draft is written I’m sure I will feel rewarded.  Tea and chocolate are helping me along the way at present.

    For more see, Twelve ideas for mum to help relieve stress

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