• Friday today and a day at home
    Parenting

    Friday and a day at home

    Friday today and a day at home with the children.  The day started in the same way as it always does. I snoozed Alexa as I really did not want to get out of bed. I left it a little late to get up and then helped the kids to get dressed. We left the house on time and then left daddy at work.

    Arriving at Aldi we sat in the car park waiting for the shop to open.  My aim was to buy as little as possible and run down the food in the cupboards.  Taking the children with me did not help me achieve this.  My 7 year old added baked beans to the trolley as apparently we really needed them, along with a few other things. Once we got to the checkout we had three bags full.

    Do your children behave when out shopping? mine rarely do.  Life is never dull when they are around.  After making me stressed in Aldi my 7 year old was then very chatty with the sales assistant.  There are times that he does make me proud despite the naughtiness.  As the shopping was being scanned he started to ask the man if he had had a good new year, then my 5 year told him that she got a lot of presents.  They are difficult children but they can be very friendly.

    Morrisons was next, I again had the children pushing the basket around the floor. See Friday stress after Christmas.  When we got to the self-checkout they both climbed on the conveyor belt. My son then had the idea of walking off with the trolley full of baskets.  He walked them to the front of the shop where the rest are stored.  I watched him as I scanned the shopping willing him to empty out the baskets and bring the trolley back.  Needless to say that after I had paid for the shopping I then showed him how to unload the baskets and then watched him take the empty trolley back to the self-checkout.  The sales assistant waved in appreciation.

    We then loaded up the car and drove home.  My plan for the day was to tidy the kid’s bedrooms, help them with their thankyou letters and then cuddle up and watch a film.  My day did not follow this plan. How rare is it for a child to do what you want them to do? My son tidied his room and vacuumed it.  My daughter refused, she then brought some of her teddy bears into his room as it was being tidied.

    I discovered today that they have a dangerous game, one which someday is going to get somebody hurt. They are piling up cuddly toys under the windowsill in my son’s bedroom and then jumping off the sill into the toys. Sounds ingenious until you realise that if they jump a bit too far they will go crashing into the wood on his bed. Telling and then ordering my 5 year old to stop did not stop her jumping.  I guess at the ages of 5 and 7 you do not see the dangers, all you see is the fun.  I’m really hoping that nobody gets hurt or they stop doing it.

    The children then proceeded to be difficult, today was not the calm day that I had hoped it would be. I hate being a shouty mum but today I was.  Telling the kids that they can not eat in the front room is ignored. I get fed up finding toast on the carpet and on the chairs.  My son asked me for some milk, I let him have some and made him drink it in the kitchen. My daughter then decided that she wanted some. She then helped herself and ignored me when I told her to drink it in the kitchen.

    This lead to milk all over a cushion that does not have a removable cover and the beaker being sat in the armchair.  I stood annoyed about the cushion, not noticing the milk sat there. She then picked up her beaker and dropped it all over a throw and the carpet.  It was an accident but I sent her to her room.  I now had to shampoo the carpet which due to being a  bit broken means I have to put my fist in the hole in the dirty water box otherwise it does not suck the dirty water out of the carpet.  See Tuesday a Care bear and a broken Vax.

    Shampooing the carpets will be harder until I buy a new dirty water box.  Someday I will replace it, at least it will be clean.

    So our day did not go according to plan, both children got sent to their rooms and were made to sit on the stairs during the course of the day. I felt like a rotten mum but how else can you teach them that their actions are wrong and they need to do as they are told? To not hang off the back of the chair or stand on the piano.  Not jump on the settee and knock the picture down or ask Alexa to play music very loudly or fight with the light sabre in the front room near the television.  Yes, I am exhausted and all I really wanted to do today was cuddle up with a film.

    Tomorrow Daddy is at work and we still have the Christmas tree to take down.  I am hoping that the children can help me with it.  I am imagining chaos and tears as I get more and more stressed with them playing with tinsel, baubles and lights.

    Anyway, I am now going to get some rest, ready for the stress of tomorrow and the hard work and the joy of my job of being mum.

  • The ups and downs of the working mum
    Parenting,  Poetry

    The mannequin and the slippers poetry

     

    The ups and downs of the working mum,
    The exhaustion and stress and the love that comes.
    The pushing of boundaries and not doing as they are told
    They are a lot of work but my heart they will always hold.

    All our efforts we make for our girls and our boys,
    All the work that goes in to ensure they have their toys.
    The anger and the tears when mum gets it wrong,
    Mums, not an expert, sometimes we just try to sing along.

    Today a happy walk to the town,
    Became ignored in a sales assistants frown.
    Two kids playing and crawling on the floor,
    People watching adding to the mum war.

    A mission to buy the kids new pyjamas,
    Featured two children in a shop fighting over slippers.
    Mum shouting and a sales assistant saying stop
    Mum trying to find clothes, caught on the hop.

    They also walked off to play with a mannequin,
    Mum said no, the kids holding both its hands.
    They gave them to the sales assistant who found it fun,
    Mum was embarrassed and wanted to run.

    female mannequin wearing black jacket
    Photo by Brett Sayles on Pexels.com

    The dramas of taking two children shopping,
    The long walk home, the cold not relenting.
    The January darkness, the lights from the cars,
    But too cloudy tonight to see the stars.

    The relief to get home and finally have dinner,
    Chips and sausages tonight a definite winner.
    The kids have gone straight to bed tonight,
    Mum gave them a kiss, said sleep well, night night.

    Now able to sit here with daddy watching the soaps,
    Day off tomorrow, the kids might be good, mum hopes.
    Achy and tired after work and her long walk,
    Mum sits now too exhausted to talk.

    The work and the battles our children put us through,
    We all carry on giving our love as new.
    The strength and the energy and the work it takes,
    The test of love that our children make.

    The support we give and the love they bring,
    A family working together through everything.
    Life goes by, hold your family close,
    For in life their importance is the most.

    Have you children ever embarrassed you shopping? What are your stories?

    The mannequin and the slippers today really happened. I was one tired and embarrassed mum.

    For more poetry here is another poem.  https://justmuddlingthroughlife.co.uk/2018/10/31/poetry-we-are-all-important/

  • First day back at work today in the new year
    Parenting

    Wednesday – Back to work today

    First day back at work today in the new year.  The morning started as usual but the kids are not back at school until Monday.  We left daddy at his work and then I left the children with my parents for the day and continued on my journey.

    The day passed, busy as usual. My head was racing this morning and I had the feeling of exhaustion and just wanting to go back to bed.  I was pleased to finish my day and get back in my car and head home.

    The children had had a busy day and had fun travelling on the bus with Grandma and Grandad. My daughter was tired after walking around the town and had shown my mum some dolls that she is now wanting.  She has not bought them yet but I’m sure my daughter might find some with her birthday present this year.  My 5 year old loves her dolls and has been collecting the Disney Princess toddlers.

    Many grandparents I know like to treat their grandchildren. My two don’t always know how lucky they are. They drive us all mad but my mum does like to spoil them.

    The children have gone to bed well tonight. They are both exhausted and are both asleep in their own beds. It is nice when we don’t have to keep telling them to go to bed.

    Sitting here now watching the soaps and yawning, the stress of Christmas now gone and being mum. I somehow need to find some time somewhere to myself but life carries on. Christmas is over and the new year has started.  We continue on round and round life’s hamster wheel.

    Back to work tomorrow and the children have a day with daddy.  They do love spending time with him but I know when  I get home tomorrow, I will find them on the iPad and iPod.  My son was asking me to read him Roald Dahl  ‘Esio Trot’ tonight. I was too tired to sit and read. I left him reading it to himself but told him we will do some reading together on Friday, he was happy with this plan.

    Friday will be our last weekday off alone together for a little while.  I know that I need to make the most of the time that we have as time races by so quickly.  So reading together is one thing we can do, watch a film is another or we could walk to town. I need to not spend the day on my laptop like I have the last few days. I’m sure as well that the children would like to do something.  I’m planning on hiding the gadgets as they make me mad.

    Anyway a shorter entry tonight, back to work tomorrow and I know that I will not want to leave the house as my family are all at home relaxing together. Though it is nice sometimes to talk to another adult other than my husband.

    So I am now going to go and get some rest ready for the morning. I also need to remember to load the washing machine before leaving the house.  I’m now going to try and build some strength for tomorrow and being mum.

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