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The work day is over – Poetry
The work day is over, I just want to sleep,
But instead of bed, I’m active, a mother’s job to keep.
Pulling the weeds out in the garden,
While my daughter tries to help me.
Dragging out the brambles, I’m scratched and hurt,
So tired, just want to sit with a mug of tea.The commitments that we all have,
I can rarely just relax.
The washing, the cooking and the cleaning,
Where do I find time for reading?
Filling the green bin with weeds is fulfilling,
For once maybe with the garden, I’m winning.The work week has dragged by slowly,
I’m feeling so very busy.
The ongoing daily routine,
The things a mother has seen.
Kids to school and us to work,
My legs and body right now hurt.So I have one more day on my own,
Before a week with the kids at home.
I was planning to relax but now I have the garage to sort,
Kids toys and child seats, a sentiment that can’t be bought.
To tidy and keep or throw away,
Confusing but my heart wants it all to stay.Every day we all get older, not all getting stronger,
Making the most of the time we have, the days do not get longer.
The challenges life presents us,
The twists and turns, sometimes life feels a mess.
We all work on and try so hard,
All working for that ‘did right’ card.All the crying, their needs and wants,
All their pleading, their love and haunts.
No one said that parenting is easy,
The demanding challenges and mystery.
The ongoing questioning, being a role model,
This parenting lark is hard, it isn’t a doddle.Juggling our work and life,
Being a mum and a loving wife.
Demands of family and of home,
There are times when I want to be alone.
Working hard, sometimes struggling,
Trying to get everything done.School holidays are around the corner,
Plans to make, the weather is getting warmer.
Keeping them busy, keeping up with their talking,
Being active a lot of walking.
I need to be strong and spend the time,
Keep them from technology and have some fun.Exhaustion from work and from life,
Homework, reading, trouble and strife.
Living and working, afraid to fall,
Working hard, wanting it all.
Some things in life will always be hard,
And sometimes we will never want to part.The ups and downs of a working mum,
Balancing life, balancing work and fun.
Working together, working as a team,
Trying our best to live life’s dream.
So, on with life and roll on next week,
To spend time with the children, little time to think.For more see, Being mum, the work never stops
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Maintaining balance in life
Maintaining balance in life is never easy. Awkward children, tired husband, house insurance due for renewal, school photos to be ordered, my head is swimming with information. Still writing my novel, now at 37000 words. So much I need to expand on, but getting my thoughts straight to write it is hard. I know I need to get my first draft written.
I’ve started writing my time travel timeline on wallpaper. I’m realising there is so much to writing an exciting, interesting novel. I’ve been advised that because I’m writing Science Fiction, I need to read more Science Fiction.
How do writers fit in all the reading and research alongside family life? I’ve purchased a notebook to write down ideas whilst I’m out and about. I’ve been advised as well to try and make my novel humorous, but I am not Douglas Adams. Would be nice to believe though that I could be as funny.
So what else is happening? Last week I was involved in a car accident. Was not to bad but scary enough. The children were upset but are now pleased with their new car seats and the hire car while it is being repaired. I have gone from a 2010 Citroen C3 Picasso to a new black BMW. The children have already managed to set of its alarm. My son touched it and it started screaming at him. I’ve never driven a car with an alarm before.
Despite the car being shiny and new though, I want my old diesel back. If I was to buy a new car tomorrow it would not be a BMW. I was stationary at the time of the accident. I hid in the hedge as she passed and scraped my car. Due to having a dashcam the insurance company has the evidence that I was not at fault. It might have just paid for itself. I would honestly recommend buying one. The footage shows that I’m doing 0mph as she hits me. The kids make it more dramatic by crying, we were all in shock but none of us were hurt.
So now trying to focus on what I need to do. I’m tired and just want to sleep. Maybe after a lay in tomorrow, I will feel more recharged. Maybe the children will leave me long enough to sleep in. Tomorrow as well as everything else I need to do, I need to help the kids with their homework.
I still need to make a decision on the house insurance, it really is not as simple as compare the market or confused.com or even money supermarket. Not as simple as just pick the cheapest. All policies cover different things. Different excesses, different levels of cover. My head hurts trying to decide. I have pages of notes and have spent a lot of time on the phone. I am a great over thinker!
Does anyone else worry about the amount of time you spend with a mobile phone to your ear? I fear that I’m frying my brain. If I put the phone on speaker I find that the person I’m talking to can not always hear me very well. I think I need to attach some headphones to my mobile phone.
Another week left of school and work and then we have another holiday. I’m looking forward to time at home with the kids however they are hard work. The balance of time with the children and their stress and time away from work stress. I’m planning now for the week coming, a trip to the town, we have library books to return.
Yes, the pile of library books that we took out a few weeks back have still to go back. The wonders of being able to renew them online. My son chose most of them and he has maybe read three out of about twelve books. I borrowed a Dean Koontz novel and have not read it, life keeps getting in the way and I need to read Science Fiction.
So, what next? I need to be more focused, balancing work and life is never going to be easy. The children are demanding and I need to spend quality time with them too as well as Daddy.
How can a healthy balance be achieved? Maybe I need to start doing Tai Chi every morning. However, that would just add to an already hectic schedule.
For a working, writing mum with young children, managing a busy household. The demands of balancing everything feels heavy sometimes. The importance of just being you and making time for you! It is crucial to find the necessary time to recharge and refuel.
So, how do you manage to balance everything? Does life feel hectic and often stressful for you as well? I appreciate a lay-in and time alone under the duvet. May sound selfish but I really need it. If I could smuggle coffee and chocolate inside as well I would. This morning, being my day off, I wanted to return to bed after the school run. However, I had to much to do and had to accept delivery of the BMW and say goodbye to my car for a few days.
The joys of life and it’s stresses and challenges. The challenge of maintaining a healthy balance.
for more see, Twelve ideas for mum to help relieve stress
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Twelve ideas for mum to help relieve stress
Stress is hard to contend with. It shows itself in different ways. For me its achy legs, grumpiness and tiredness. Do you have days where you just want to shut the world out? Days where your bed and duvet are much more inviting than the day ahead? Days where despite loving and adoring your children you would like to be sat in a relaxing spa miles away? Days, when going to work is the last thing you want to do? Don’t get me wrong, I do actually really love my job, but there are days when that can get too much as well.
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Am I normal? It is just being human? Being female? Being a mum to two small children? Or being a wife? Is it just to much stress and pressure?
Wives, mum’s, women many of us seem to carry the world on our shoulder’s. Some of us do it better than others. Me, maybe not so well. I have days in the car where I will scream and cry. Then compose myself when I meet people, I’m alright really!
I have a family I love, I have a job I enjoy. So, why stress? Life’s challenges, it would be boring without them. The need for more, the need to prove to myself that I’m actually worth something. Quite often I feel worthless. I’m mum, I cry, stress and nag. I’m mum, quite often ignored. Also, I’m mum organising bills, presents, birthdays, Christmas, Mothers day, Father’s day, Easter. Insurance, doctors appointments, washing, shopping, the list goes on.
As a mum, I often forget to look after me. Me who holds up everyone else. They say if a plane is going too crash then you should breathe into the mask first before passing it to your dependents. I’m sure I heard that somewhere. So, maybe us mum’s, women, home financial officers, do need to put ourselves first more. Our families need us!
So what can we do to relax, look after ourselves and ease the stress?
1. Put you feet up and relax with a mug of Herbal tea2. Watch your favourite DVD
3. Listen to an audible book
4. Cuddle up with your favourite author book or Kindle US and Kindle UK
5. Listen to your favourite music
6. Walking in the woods or by the sea.
7. Gardening– taking your stress out on the weeds
8. Relax with Bath oils
9. Relax with a Bubble bath
10. I started my blog due to stress. Writing for me is a good stress reliever.
12. Trying to believe in yourself. Right now I am writing my first novel. Trying to keep positive and motivated as I type. 34300 words today. I am not half way yet!
We all know that stress is not good for us, though many of us feel it. Many of us continue to work on through it. The “I wants” from the children carry on and we do our best. I took my children to B and M this afternoon to buy a garden broom. I could have been in and out in minutes. Instead, I was chasing them up and down the aisles and explaining why I wouldn’t buy the things they wanted.
They were slightly better in Morrison’s buying some plants but not much better. So, I wanted to buy container plants. Trying to work this out, Google on my phone and the kids saying “what about this one?” Does not help to make a decision. I ended up with two Gerberas and two Hollyhocks, which now I’m home I’ve found out they grow too big for my containers. They will soon be moved to the flower bed. Yes, I love my children very much!
I’m sure many dads feel it as well. Some dad’s I’m sure do much more than others. Daddy here will get up in the morning, letting me sleep at weekends which is honestly a huge bonus, I need my sleep! The kids adore him as they have him just where they want him. Daddy often says yes to their wants, mummy is the bad guy!
So, what do you do to stay calm and relaxed? Do you feel as stressed as me? Do you ever feel the need to shut out the world? It’s not easy being a mum but so many of us do it and we do a fantastic, amazing job with it. We conduct our own appraisals. I’m sure some of us carry out our appraisals more than others. I did mine today whilst bathing my five year old, twice as covered in mud. Black face, then mud in her hair all due to coating herself in Sun cream. I had to run a separate bath to wash her hair. Yes, mum fail, I should have made sure that I applied the sun cream.
Yes all the joys of being a parent, as I bathed her I regretted not taking a photo, it was frustrating but quite funny really. Maybe one of those times where we should have been laughing rather than me kicking myself once again.
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