Saturday morning..
Does a weekend really mean time off work? Maybe it is time away from paid work, but are weekends harder then the working week? Today I have my 5 year old talking obsessively, she has homework but climbing the furniture and making a mess is more appealing. My 7 year old just wants to lie with his nose stuck to the ipad. The chores of homework whilst trying to find time to rest my mind. Does mummy really need to rest? The housework is screaming at me as always. I am sat here as life is buzzing around me. Does anyone else feel this sense of helplessness and exhaustion? The hill I feel I am climbing does not get any easier.
Life gives us so many challenges as we walk through it, everyday different and rarely easy. It does not matter what we do in life, we all have our own struggles and problems. My 5 year old climbing the cupboards and now attempting to take scissors, tape measure, sellotape and paper into the garden, not sure what she is trying to do but I need to follow her. All I really want to do is sit here quietly with my coffee.
Why do kids climb? And why do they love to not do as you ask? They have minds of their own. Trying to be independent but at 5 and 7 not recognising the dangers around them. Forever pushing their boundaries and forcing the on going tension between mum and child. I look at my two and feel very grateful and proud that I am their mummy. However when they are acting out in public there are times when I would love just to hide. The stress of “I want” against the need to discipline and not give them everything. Could not afford to buy everything, but in the eyes of my 7 year old I am the worse mum for refusing him another lego set. In sets the mummy guilt, it will be Christmas soon. I am sure I am not the only mummy who has this struggle, toys given to check out assistants as I am not buying it all.
So here we are Saturday morning, end of a busy working week. I have yet another pile of washing for the machine. A husband playing games on the computer. It will be mummy that needs to enforce the kids do some homework. Structure is important, homework does not take that long. To my 7 year old, Roblox is far more interesting then making a Roman shield. My 5 year old I have now discovered is mending an old broken umbrella that should have been binned months ago. Productive for a Saturday morning, covered in sellotape and will not last long but she is happy.
So this all raises the question, a peaceful happy household verses the stress of removing the electronic gadgets and games and pushing them to work. I am quite happy to sit with my feet up, drink coffee all day and enjoy the peace whilst watching my 5 year olds creativity. However if I did, nothing would get done. So here I am back on my hamster wheel of Saturday morning and the busy weekend.
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CarlyBloggs
This sounds exactly like my Saturday morning! I always have a ton of housework to do and the 2 kids to entertain but I never want to really do anything! Juggling life is hard work!
justmuddlingthroughlife
Yes it is and absolutely nothing can prepare you for the stress of running a time and caring for kids.
-Eugenia
Wow! You are a busy lady. You’re so right, life does present many challenges. Hopefully, one day you can sit back and admire all of your hard work. Thank you for following BrewNSpew and ThusNSuch.
justmuddlingthroughlife
Thankyou, yes kids just add so much more work. You are welcome, both your blogs are very interesting.
-Eugenia
Thank you!
thatblogwherecheriemovestogermany
The best thing I ever did one year was to change the “rules” of Christmas. One gift, and one gift only. They didn’t die. Family members didn’t die when we said the we would opt out of gifts. Life got much better for me, so much less stress. No more trying to please everyone, and no more financial stress over the holidays. Wish I had done it from the time they were babies.
justmuddlingthroughlife
I have family members that get upset when I tell them what I want or the kids want for Christmas.. your idea sounds better… ease the clutter of toys.. yes the financial stress is painful!
thatblogwherecheriemovestogermany
It was weird the first Christmas, but after that, it was wonderful. Plus it gave my extended family more things to complain about..LOL
justmuddlingthroughlife
ha ha my family love complaining too..
Debbie Harris
Your post takes me back to my days with young children. It’s so hard at times but also rewarding so hang in there, you’re doing a great job. I think sharing your thoughts is a great way to help cope with things, blogging is a fun way to record things you’re going through at the time.
justmuddlingthroughlife
Thanks Debbie, it did occur to me that it would be nice to print it out like a diary of what the kids were up to at this point in time…
ellenbest24
The house work will wait, unless you have the housework police visiting. The sheild can be made if you tell him the story of the dragon slayer … who would not have been a champion if he had not made the most wonderful sheild. Your daughter might work on blue peter once grown … here is my first attempt at one I made earlied … tahdah! *holds aloft an umberella reinforced with sellotape and love* Have a smashing weekend.
justmuddlingthroughlife
Hi Ellen, I am so sorry, only just found your comment. Thankyou very much, yes the umbrella is going in my mummy museum of things I can’t part with, the shield we did a good job in the end. The house is a permanent mess due to lack of time and kids. Hope you have a lovely weekend to!
ellenbest24
No problem. 😊
Anindya
You are not the only one, and I can say that both parents go through this with their children in their growing years. Children definitely have a mind of their own which will defy any logic, but they have a way to teach us many things, the best is to be happy no matter what…..I think we need to meditate more on weekends to keep things sane…..nice post..:)
justmuddlingthroughlife
Thank you, yes my husband gets very stressed too. This morning it was him trying to get our 7 year old to just put down the Ipod and put his socks on for school. Time for meditation would be good because yes I think we do need it.
Anindya
True that…..:)
fancypaperblog
Weekends are super busy when parenting sometimes. I wrote about this once- focusing on Sunday especially. It was very overwhelming actually. Sounds like you and I were in a similar place last year!
Just muddling through life
Thanks Orla, yes weekends are a lot of work!